why having a hater ; motivates us.

'He who wrestles with us, 

Strenghtens our nerves, and sharpens our skills. Our antagonist is our helper.'

-Edmund Burke-

photo as illustration : 2 friends at the back & our guide in the Himalayas. The said 'hater' is the one who took the picture while the other one in the background ; looking.

The challenges of competition can be stimulating and enjoyable. But when beating the opponent takes precedence in the mind over performing as well as possible, enjoyment tends to dissapear. Competition is enjoyable only when it is means to perfect one's skills; when it becomes an end in itself, it cease to be fun - Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi-

lectiophile

I did ask myself....

What am i going to do with reading books, currently the genre im focusing on is spiritualism ie self development.

But i did ask myself,

Whats next?

I didn't plan to read to excel in spiritualism knowledge.

I am just 'being', making experiences along the way.

And what about the physical book...am i going to give it away?

Am i going to teach it to others?

I don't know.

But what it feels right now is i am on a right track.

Spending my time on reading rather than distracting myself from sadness.

Because in the end, everything is No-Thing ☺️

Suffering is optional

 

Today's lesson:

After waited for more than ½ an hour for that parking lot only to be overtaken by another car who came swiftly in.

 

First reaction is scrutinizing my own mistake ie what have gone wrong that caused the failure...i begin screaming at the top of my lung and crying too.

 

This is when the benefit of feeling your feelings came into power. You are disappointed with yourself, you are angry at the situation. Feel it, let it come *through* you and allow the serenity to come back in. As a final thought came in i decided, the main thing that i lost...is time.

 

Next thing i know, there's an empty parking lot just around the corner that i have pass through multiple time while waiting for the previous parking lot...its even closer walking distance to my office building.

 

So our mental state should not be thinking about what happened, what have gone wrong...instead, 

Its about...Surrender.

What you want no doubt is what is 'perfect' for you.

But what's for you may be far from perfect but its the best. Why? Because... its for you.

 

Take it ☺️