why having a hater ; motivates us.

'He who wrestles with us, 

Strenghtens our nerves, and sharpens our skills. Our antagonist is our helper.'

-Edmund Burke-

photo as illustration : 2 friends at the back & our guide in the Himalayas. The said 'hater' is the one who took the picture while the other one in the background ; looking.

The challenges of competition can be stimulating and enjoyable. But when beating the opponent takes precedence in the mind over performing as well as possible, enjoyment tends to dissapear. Competition is enjoyable only when it is means to perfect one's skills; when it becomes an end in itself, it cease to be fun - Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi-